Thursday, 25 October 2007

At Wit's End

Love can make you do some fucked up things.

I have this friend. Let’s call him E. He’s like a brother to me. He’s a good looking guy and can probably bag any man he wants, but just lacks the confidence. Let’s start at the beginning.

About 8 months ago, E went to his boss’s house to play playstation and get drunk. Then one thing led to another and before they knew it, they were watching porn. As the scene grew hotter, Bossman looked at E and E looked at him. Something could have happened then and there. But E chose not to do anything. His boss is STRAIGHT.

Months later, after hanging out more often with Bossman, E fell in love. He began to live in a world of fantasy where he would follow Bossman’s every move. E would relish Bossman’s lingering scent and would be thrilled when he would smile at him. This went on for quite some time and E fell even more in love.

We advised him not to fall in and to stay away. But the more he stayed away, the more Bossman grew anxious and it affected the workplace. So E resumed contact once again. Then one weekend E was once again invited to Bossman’s house where he was introduced to drugs (I have no clue as to what type it is) and copious amounts of alcohol. After that weekend, E grew more despondent and began to retract from me and his other friends. Bossman became an obsession.

The last time I spoke to him, he was high or drunk and with Bossman.
I’m at my wits’ end.
I feel like I have failed a friend.
I hate the feeling of being a failure.

I don’t know what to do next.

4 comments:

JOSH said...

prayer works john... or else, his big enough to know what is good for him and be man enough to face the consequences of his actions. Don't feel the weight man, like u r his parent or guardian, you have never stop reminding him. Just hope he comes to his senses...

John Halcyon von Rothschild said...

I guess you're right Josh. I hope he realizes that he's in the wrong on this one. But sometimes you just have to hit rock bottom so that you rise up again...I guess...

Phoenix said...

You obviously care deeply for your friend. Unfortunately for self esteem and self confidence issues- the person has to work it out himself. No one else can give that to him. He deserves a man who will love him, not just a drinking buddy. I hope he realizes that.

Josh is right.. you can only pray. Still, keep a close eye on your friend, now that drugs are involved.

chase said...

he needs a stray jacket. joke..
seriously, your friend need some serious slapping. redundant noh?

anyway,he needs to snap out of the obsession. YOu and his loyal friends need help him.
i don't know how. but doing a Dr. Phil could be a start.